Though parenting is one of the most enriching experience in our life, in present times it is increasingly becoming difficult to deal with the issues related to it. These issues could be related to your child’s behavior, academics, relationship, uncertain future, health or expectations mismatch. Most of us, as parents, are grappling with some of these issues related to our child and invariably one or more of them crop up in our mind and manifest themselves as worrisome problems for us.
It is happening not only because of changing needs of the time but also due to ever increasing self-expectations. While at one hand we have hardly been able to be aware of our own issues and challenges, on the other hand as a parent it has become even more difficult for us to handle the situations arising due to complex nature of family unit involving spouse and child. Also, when we are facing various phases of the childhood of our children, most of the times we deal with them under the purview of our own learnings, challenges, biases and frustrations.
This problem becomes more grave because rather than inquiring into our own biases and conditioning, we seek a “technique” or “methodology” or “dos and don’ts” to deal with anything and everything in life whether it is success in career, relationship, money or parenting. Unfortunately there is no key to parenting which can lead you towards successful parenting as the case is for everything else in life. Also there is no guarantee for the outcome but one can definitely be assured of a journey of parenting that is very satisfying and enriching.
Hence it is important that we stop looking at the questions which are only related to the symptoms and look into the questions which help us reflect and inquire gaps at the root of our problems. To be a conscious parent and enjoy the journey of being a parent one needs to be inquiring oneself. In addition to enjoying this journey through Conscious Parenting, you also learn a lot about yourself as both are inter related. We cannot ignore dealing with this mode of self-inquiry any further as it is hurting our experience of being a happy parent and hinders creating happy, intuitive, intelligent and integrated child. At the same time, it is creating a world and society which is exponentially becoming complicated and miserable.